Happiness And Motherhood: Help For Moms In search Of Optimum Happiness



Posted: Tuesday, October 05, 2010

by Tanna Phares

How to be happy always as a mother? This article is a resource for moms looking to increase their happiness index. I discuss sound and unique parent tips and advice for creating a world of maximized happiness as a mother. Here is one technique we can implement as we strive to be happy moms.

As mothers we take on the responsibility of caring for our children from day one. We feed them, clothe them, protect them, teach them, guide them, correct them, cheer for them, assist them, love them. There is no way for a brand new baby to care for themselves. It is impossible. They rely on outside sources 100% for their survival. Most babies are fortunate enough to have parents to fulfill this caretaker role.

As the years go by children become more and more independent, their need for us diminishes, especially their reliance on us for their physical well being. I am a firm believer that parents can and should remain involved emotionally with their children forever. Not that parents should control or manipulate adult children, mind you, but they should continue to be a support and offer their council when asked for by their children. You can always be a parent in one capacity or another to your children, regardless of their age. I am a grown, thirty something woman, with three children of my own, and I continue to seek assistance and support from my parents on an on-going basis. My parents have never ceased being parents to me, but the manner in which they relate to me has transformed and evolved as I have grown and matured.

Since our children do need to rely on us so wholly for years and years, it is easy for us as mothers to get stuck in the role of a teacher or a guide for our kids. We get so accustomed to telling them what to do and how to do it, we may forget to actually listen to them and learn from them. Contrary to what you may think, as mothers we should acknowledge those moments where the roles are reversed, when our children become the teachers and we become the students.

Take a moment to reflect on what your kids give you? What have you learned from your child? What have they done or said that made you stop in your tracks, completely amazed at your little sage? Children give us nearly as much as we give them. We are not always the teachers. They are not always the students. The roles are fluid, changing, intertwined. We need to remember that even though they are young, they can offer profound insight, or a different perspective, or a better way to deal with a situation.

All too often as adults we let life become overly serious or complicated. Most children, especially younger ones, see the world as a simple place. The older we get the more we allow outside influences and messages to shape our perception of life, and this usually means it becomes full of negativity, struggle, stress, disappointment, and hardship. Kids don’t automatically think this way. These are learned patterns of thought, perception and action. So what would happen if we took a step back and lived as our kids do, fully in the moment, thoroughly enjoying a mud puddle, or an ice cream cone, or a bike ride, or digging for worms, or climbing a tree, or running down the street. Wouldn’t we experience more happiness, more joy, more intensity in the small things? And in so doing, wouldn’t our life be better on the whole?

Kids don’t just remind us to relish the little things, although this is an important step to happiness. They can also provide us with new perspectives, insights and wisdom. Let us not overlook these merely because we are the adults, the teachers, the guides. Let us remember to value our children and embrace their way of seeing life, their understanding of human interaction, their innocent approach, their quickness to forgive, their alternate route to solving a problem.

Continue to guide your child because this is indeed part of your duty as a parent, but be open to their understanding as well. Let them give to you just as you give to them. You might just be amazed at how different your life will look, how much more happiness and enjoyment you’ll experience daily. Allow your children to bring you this light, this laughter, this ease and relaxation. You’ll both live a healthier, happier life.

There is so much more to discover in this journey to everlasting happiness. This is just the very beginning. To learn more about how to be happy as a woman and how to be happy as a mother always, please visit http://www.happymombook.com. Sign up for my Everlasting Happiness Newsletter. It’s FREE!

Tanna Phares is an author and a mother of three young children. She provides resources for moms and help for moms across the globe by assisting them in their journey to find enduring happiness in their lives as mothers. You can learn more about her by visiting http://www.littlemamabiglife.blogspot.com/.
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